Whether one believes the friend zone is real or not, today’s dating advice should have a positive effect on anyone’s love life. In this week’s episode, we even try to shoot for a bit more maturity, which you can judge in the transcript below…
according to society, being friends without “benefits” is a purgatory known as the “friend zone”.
lately one geek asked our advice on avoiding this friend zone, when meeting girls he’d like to date.
at our weekly LAN party, we formulated 5 tips for geeks at risk of such poorly requited love.
“have you been friend-zoned by friends you’ve known for ages? you’re better off with trying strangers.”
“old friends are too accustomed to you as a friend. you should have flirted more from the beginning.”
“next time you meet someone you like, send signals to show you’re open to a relationship. no pressure.”
“have a nice, friendly personality. contrary to popular belief, most normal women don’t prefer jerks.”
“however, being nice isn’t enough. no one likes guys who act like they’re owed sex for being nice.”
“attractive folks are likeable and admirable. be a good person first, if you’re trying to get laid.”
“being friend-zoned doesn’t mean you’re unattractive. it simply means you’re not her type.”
“it’s politeness, really. she’s friend-zoning you to protect your ego, by not openly rejecting you.”
“it’s not a sign to try harder. avoid pestering her unless you want to look like a predatory plonker.”
“i’ve read online that you can dress your way out of the friend zone. that’s so unbelievably stupid.”
“no one’s friend-zoning you over how you dress. well-dressed jerks are still jerks on the outside.”
“if you keep being friend-zoned, maybe your personality needs more work, not your pants.”
“to avoid friend-zoning, be honest with yourself. are you really interesting enough to date?”
“if you’re dateable, potential mates will gravitate to you. stop looking all the darn time.”
“in the end, just be the best person you can be. romance and stuff will follow, when you’re ready.”
Have your own suggestions? Post away in the comments.
We’ll do two more of these episodes this summer, for a limited 5-part run – after which we’ll start analysing lessons learned from this project, so we can apply them to our winter project of feminist game reviews. But during the interim downtime, we might allow our younger creatives to try their own ideas around here this summer.
(And by younger, we mean… primary school-aged siblings? Err, stay tuned.)
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